- Learn to say 'no' to the good so you can say 'yes' to the best. John C. Maxwell
Move Out of My Parents House
You become responsible
Maturity, responsible behaviour and the fundamentals of life, these things don’t come easy. You actually have to be in that situation to learn what is the ideal thing to do, to behave responsibly like an adult and not like an adrenaline pumped teenager. Once you are on your own you are bound to face many adversities and you often get into a crisis, but dealing with it unaided and living upto your duties without your family’s help will keep ultimately result in a more responsible you.
No time check
I leave for my college at 8 o’ clock every morning and if someday it takes me more than 6pm to get back home, then my cellphone becomes a constantly ringing alarm. You take out your phone from your pocket and 14 missed calls. Parents just can’t stop calling! And what if you have to go for a party and your parents give you a time limit till midnight. 12am?? That’s when all the parties start. But how do you construe that to your family members? Problem!
No constant nagging
Somehow parents are very likely to point out all the flaws in their children or indicating the unfinished chores. Or at least we think so, where they might be just doing that for our own benefit. Why clothes are still lying on bed, why there is too much piled up stuff in your room? Parents have a say in everything we do which most of the times takes the form of lecturing, scolding or punishing. But youngsters don’t like anybody else to take charge of their lives. To tell them when to clean their room, eat lunch, not watch too much tv or spend whole day on the laptop. We want to live our life the way we want and I personally believe that taking a bath at 9 in morning or at 9 at night should not create tiniest of problem for anybody on the planet. So just to avoid the lecturing and nagging, you might want to move out.
You can have things your way
I want to paint my room’s wall neon green and put on a huge poster of Curt Kobain over it. BUT, guess what? I can’t. Because according to my parents, having a neon green wall is way too freaky an idea and it won’t go with the whole house’s décor. I think we all have to deal with such things. And it’s pretty natural and you can’t really blame your parents because what they like, you might not like and what you like, they definitely don’t like. So having a place of your own gives you the freedom to design it the way you want, make your own rules, live life on your own terms and have pizza for dinner for endless number of days! (That’s actually not at all healthy).
Teenagers or young adults are sometimes immature, they behave kiddish, do things they should not and get into unnecessary arguments. But even parent can behave puerile and unfortunately many a times they do. We always have atleast 1 such person in our friends’ circle who often stays distressed due to his/her parents’ brawls. And they can’t even do anything about it and just prefer to stay out of home to get some piece of mind. So to stay out of your parents’ quarrels you will need your own little shelter.
Give them their space
It’s a well appreciated fact that once somebody becomes a parent his/her whole life takes a 360 degree turn. What used to be drinking late night with friends now becomes changing the diapers or making the kids do their homework. Earlier they could go out and enjoy romantic lunches as a couple anytime they want but now they have a family which takes the prior most position in life. They become unable to manage spending some quality time with the spouse. So it’s time to give them some private space so that they can enjoy life the way they want. After all it’s not just about your freedom every time. Your parents’ is as much important.