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Have My First Kiss



During the Kiss

Your lips comprise one of your body’s densest zones of nerve endings, allowing you to detect even the faintest whisp of sensation, Kirshenbaum says. And thanks to all those nerve endings, kissing fires up a surprisingly large portion of your brain, she says. (Believe it or not, more of your noodle is activated during kissing than during sex, some research suggests.)

Why? Kirshenbaum says one answer might have to do with all the judging your brain is doing as it weighs whether or not you should take things beyond the kiss and into the bedroom. “We’re so aware of everything that’s happening during a kiss because it’s such an important part of the decision-making process when choosing a mate,” she explains. “People describe ‘getting lost’ in sex. But that’s not the case with kissing because our brains are hyper-focused on whether or not to take things further.”

Kirshenbaum says women typically have stronger senses of smell than men. And as you kiss, your nose is sniffing around your partner for important scent-based information. This info is delivered in the form of pheromones, chemicals his body secretes that tell your brain all sorts of important things about him, including stuff about his genetic makeup.

One study from Switzerland found women are more attracted to the scents of men whose immunity-coding genes do not match their own. In terms of reproduction, mixing different immunity genes will make your offspring more resistant to disease, the study authors say. (Interesting and related: Kirshenbaum says more research has shown the opposite is true for women on birth control. If you’re on the pill, you’re more likely to go for a guy whose genetic profile matches your own. She can’t say why this is the case, but she and other researchers suspect this could explain why some long-term couples split once the woman stops taking birth control.)

Since your brain is doing it’s very best during your kiss to decide whether your tonsil tennis partner is a good fit for you in reproductive terms, it’s not uncommon for women to experience a reversal of interest after locking lips.

After Your Kiss

Dopamine is also associated with addiction and habit-forming behaviors, Kirshenbaum says. This may explain why, in the days and weeks after your first (and subsequent) make-out sessions, you just can’t seem to get your new partner out of your head. Dopamine can also wipe out your appetite and make it hard to sleep, research shows.

Studies have also found kissing triggers the release of the neurotransmitter serotonin, which causes feelings of obsession. Another hormone, oxytocin, also spikes during and after your kiss. This fosters feeling of affection and closeness, and so keeps you coming back for more even after the initial high has worn off, Kirshenbaum says.

“Kissing is a universal human behavior for a lot of reasons,” she says, adding that it’s probably one of the most important aspects of our mate selection process. So pucker up!


Success stories

Angela Aldaba

Dec 31 at 12:55 pm
It was around 2006 I'm not really sure. I was six at the time and well I had seen many things I shouldn't have when I was 4. I had my first kiss with my neighbors daughter who was perhaps 3 years older? I'm not sure they moved so don't really remember her name. what I do remember was the softness of her lips and her glow of her eyes. oh and it was not only a normal little peck It was a French kiss....

Aster Dozey

Dec 23 at 14:03 pm
stolen first kiss by my crush

Natasha Ricardo

Feb 13 at 07:35 am
First kiss with Miki in year 10, happened when she was walking me home from school, we got to the road just before westpark and had a short sweet and awkward kiss on a sunny afternoon.

Chloe P

Jan 21 at 11:24 am
His name was Matt, I was 10 he was 12. We were camping in Norfolk.

Margarida Alves

Jan 12 at 15:37 pm
word of advice: dont do it while drunk with a person you just met!

guzhali anbu

Jan 11 at 00:13 am
it was very weird experience and I never thought I would kiss and he said I can't kiss. how is started he pushed against the wall and came closer and asked what are u going to do now. j said nothing and he closer again asked what would u do if I kiss u. I shook my head and he leaved me and asked me do u really want me kiss u and yea u didn't brush u teeth. he answered yes I have kissed me and started touching my ass.

Urban Elysium

May 24 at 16:50 pm
Clearly remember it was Tramps (middle school friend) outside infront of my bedroom window around twilight. Neither of us had ever kissed anyone so we thought it was good practice,,

Stef Wilmsen

Mar 22 at 14:33 pm
great experience! never forget first kiss!

Ади К.

Feb 16 at 22:39 pm

Serra Lutzen

Feb 16 at 06:09 am
after show Aladdin. Sam dramatically dipped me into a kiss, because "he didn't know when hed see me again."

Caroline Alderweireldt

Feb 15 at 21:16 pm
I barely remember it.

Balajti Melinda

Feb 12 at 18:05 pm
In a beach

Max Germain

Feb 07 at 23:34 pm
It was great

Mira De Greve

Dec 31 at 19:32 pm
Just... unforgetable.

Sharon Hudson

Dec 18 at 16:18 pm
Robert Smith, 8th grade I was in 7th

Dominique White

Dec 05 at 11:53 am
It was so awkward, lets just leave it at that.

Lydia Lonsky

Dec 03 at 09:56 am
With Luke at the Introvert Date Spot

Cherish Hattingh

Dec 02 at 07:47 am
I waited a week because I couldnt oeep it in anymore, I could see he wasnt giving up either, everytime he had my lips in his sight he would go for it, but I would always turn so he would kiss my cheek, and then one day I had the urge to kiss him so I just did, aggh

theresa fl

Apr 15 at 19:48 pm
I wish you all to have a better first kiss. A kiss of love and passion... Too bad that we can't turn back time... :(

Anne Chauhan

Nov 19 at 07:34 am

Michaela Dzien

Oct 29 at 07:22 am
first kiss with friend

Siru Wallin

Oct 27 at 13:03 pm
One sexy football player


Oct 20 at 11:18 am

Karen Tarroyo

Sep 09 at 10:31 am

laura Verbaandert

Sep 09 at 09:23 am

Jessica Valencia

Sep 03 at 04:12 am
pretty shirty person

Letícia Loula

Aug 01 at 22:38 pm
Foi bom

Imani Gilot

Jul 31 at 01:41 am

Jade Champion

Jul 30 at 20:09 pm

Abrica Bennett

Jul 28 at 19:19 pm

Nikita Van Meyeren

Jul 28 at 00:14 am
first bf

Ushashi Mitra

Jul 11 at 15:00 pm
sealed with a kiss :P

Susan Zhou

Jun 02 at 20:08 pm
First kiss with Jack Man. Bad experience since I didn't really liked him and I didn't agreed.

Shyanne Marlett

May 09 at 06:53 am

Sandra v. d. Linde

May 01 at 10:50 am

'Q' Bjorndalen

Apr 27 at 09:12 am

Naomi Ohayon

Apr 22 at 01:04 am
It was a kiss. Nothing special

melanie Tucker

Apr 02 at 06:37 am

Shelise Woods

Mar 30 at 07:47 am
idk real date

Brenna seraphim

Mar 26 at 21:41 pm
Sweet kisses still

Erin Domingo

Mar 21 at 08:33 am

Cristina Mylroie

Mar 21 at 05:11 am
Nothing special

Frances N Benjamin Taylor

Mar 20 at 20:25 pm
it was nice and unexpected

sharon kastermans

Mar 20 at 18:39 pm

aude guivarch

Mar 15 at 21:43 pm

Caitlin Breen

Mar 14 at 04:40 am

Shannon Frederick

Mar 08 at 03:14 am
Justin Kleinschroth

Scott Bair

Feb 21 at 00:20 am
About 1984, Allyson Briscoe.

Barbaros Gozneli

Feb 20 at 20:17 pm
Long time ago

Ace Hearts

Feb 20 at 15:31 pm
I don't even know

Greta Burokaitė

Feb 16 at 10:08 am
boy from guitar group

kam a

Feb 15 at 08:52 am
It was not that great.


Feb 13 at 19:44 pm

Sweet Lady

Feb 13 at 02:42 am
C'était nul à chier.

Hope Velikova

Feb 12 at 16:33 pm
Yanki awkward

Jessica Rochford

Feb 12 at 09:41 am

Tyler Campbell

Feb 09 at 05:21 am
Had my first kiss with my then girlfriend after watching Night at the Museum 3.

cherri massey

Feb 07 at 00:25 am

Lavvi Ka

Jan 29 at 10:23 am
Better than expexted

Martine Lundemoen

Jan 28 at 18:23 pm

Klaudyna Frąckowiak

Jan 28 at 13:33 pm
it was awful xD

Laila van Pelt

Jan 24 at 19:20 pm

Emilija Ilić

Jan 20 at 10:12 am

Miia Turunen

Jan 16 at 03:39 am
My fiance came over for the first time that day :3

meka hall

Jan 12 at 23:53 pm
I was in kindergarten. he was my first boyfriend lmao good times man

Sadhbh Sutton

Jan 11 at 21:26 pm

Teresa Thompson

Jan 06 at 00:42 am
My first serious boyfriend - J.

Viviana White

Jan 05 at 14:09 pm
Had lots even in nursery but the real would only be counted is when i became a teenager


Jan 04 at 23:27 pm
It was an accident.


Jan 04 at 20:20 pm

Kayla Chambers

Jan 03 at 02:42 am
:) I was young!


Jan 03 at 02:13 am
that happened

hanneke vdwolfgunnink

Dec 31 at 21:07 pm

Eduarda Semba

Dec 30 at 12:11 pm
My first Bf

Bailey Farr

Dec 29 at 17:57 pm
terrible kiss with a fuckboy but oh well

Shannon Kokkonen

Dec 29 at 08:35 am

Emma Dane

Dec 28 at 21:27 pm

Emma Dane

Dec 28 at 21:27 pm

Katie Smith

Dec 28 at 17:39 pm

Mariana Araujo

Dec 26 at 03:01 am
I dont remember

Agnes Zsiros

Dec 25 at 12:59 pm

Laura Dodds

Dec 24 at 19:01 pm

Xiomara Martinez

Dec 18 at 16:11 pm
many time

Billie Andrews

Dec 06 at 23:15 pm
A very long time ago

Tiffany Esau

Jul 14 at 12:03 pm
It was so awkward! I had no idea that it would have been so nasty.

Alberte Mortensen

May 26 at 17:35 pm
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