• The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others. Mahatma Gandhi

Ask a Man Out on a Date



A question I hear more than any other is whether or not women can ask a guy out. For many of us, the answer is an emphatic: Hell no.

In differed cultures the approach to this question is different. In many cultures it is forbidden to ask boys out: "Our girls are not allowed to do that in our house. They have to wait for the boy to call."

Nowadays things have changed dramatically so it became even quite normal if a woman asks a man on a date.

Of course there are still too many women hesitant to ask guys on dates, to give guys an inkling of their interest in them. And it’s upsetting and limiting to both. Women afraid of coming off as too assertive, too dominant or (the worst crime a woman can commit) not “mysterious” or “chase-able” enough.

But if women start asking guys out on dates, it’ll become a more normal way of doing things, and all of these fears will become eradicated.

It sounds clichéd, but taking control of what you want is one of the most powerful things a woman can do.

We’ve been doing it in our careers, in our homes and our everyday lives, so why not do it for our relationships?

This kind of confidence is sexy in an I-know-what-I-want-and-it’s-you kind of way, and it’ll make you feel more attractive for having felt this way toward somebody and acting on it.

Guys need a little confidence, too – and if he’s a shy dude, he might never make a move.

So, if you feel like you’re the more outgoing one between the two of you, take the burden off him and ask him out.

He’ll probably feel relieved someone else did the work for him.

They say also that the pressure of asking a girl out is a burden that boys would be happy to get rid of.

Plus, if you ask him out, it’ll stroke his ego in a way that’ll be flattering for him, which will probably lead to a “yes” for you.


Success stories

Chloe P

Feb 24 at 12:52 pm
I asked him on a date and then I asked him to go out with me and now I have a boyfriend! Cool how that can actually work sometimes, huh.

Ushashi Mitra

Jul 11 at 15:01 pm
asked out..but got rejected :(


Apr 16 at 17:25 pm
asked Jeremy and we've been together ever since.

Cherie Stratton

Mar 19 at 06:43 am

Shannon Kokkonen

Jan 21 at 08:06 am

Valene Joshua

Jan 14 at 23:30 pm
Wasn't that bad...


Jan 11 at 02:56 am